He was born in a very rich family with all the facilities
that a man could think of. As a child he was pampered and taken care of with
the highest affection by the servants that have been employed by his parents. As
he entered teenage it started to make him sad that his parents don’t have
enough time to spend with him. Quite soon his mother and father got divorced
and it all became a dream for him. He could hear the whole argument his parents
were having that night but he couldn’t do anything. The pain of losing them was
intense and he thought that this will never leave him, will come to haunt him
at nights. And it did left quite a mark on his personality but time went on and
he graduated, joined his father in the business. There he found a girl that
soon became the queen of his dreams. He proposed her which she accepted happily
and it was a moment for him. Such joy such happiness he felt the kind of which he
never had or never will. He married her and they started a family together.
He was born in a middle class family. They had all the
necessities of life and his parents tried their best to provide everything to
their child. He never had all the luxuries of life but still had enough for a
child to get going with. As he entered from childhood to teenage he fell in
love with a girl about her age. Day and night were spent dreaming of her and he
got her in a relationship at last. He felt a joy like never before on her being
complying to his approach. Things went smoother and he imagined nothing can be
better than this. But fate had something else in mind and the girl left him for
another. His whole world came tumbling down in a second and his life started to
vanish around him. He felt as If he was being strangled by some invisible hands
and thought that there is nothing more terrible than life itself. Pretty soon
he came over the grief and started a job and things became smoother. He still
thinks of her sometimes.
He was born in a very poor family, the kind of which, cant
either expose their poverty to the world but live in a life of miseries, wants,
needs and dreams. Since day one he had nothing that a child could call personal
possession as his family was fighting a war with the increasing inflation rate.
Childhood passed in a blur of memories and it wasn’t even till late teens that
he started cursing his pathetic wretched life. He loathed the thought of
living, of simply breathing as if it was something on his shoes. He thought
that he can never be happy in his life. His father made him join a workshop where
he was to learn automobile repairs. He was good and being able to start young
he was faster, quicker and perceptive than others. He quickly learnt the trade
and started making good income. People used to say that he can identify the
fault in a vehicle by simply looking at it. Things got better and he started saving.
His parents married him to a decent girl, someone he liked pretty much
afterwards. From his savings he established a workshop of his own and hired
other people to work for him. His workshop became popular and customers used to
some to him increasing his income.
There he was standing outside his workshop and looking at
the traffic thinking
“life is so good that
I don’t know if it could get any better”
In all these above described events one can easily note what’s
the similarity. I was sitting with my mentor in a restaurant having a late
lunch when he told me
“Remember this Ahsan
! there are times in a person’s life that something bad happens and he thinks
that he cannot be more sad than that, grief overpowers his all senses and he
thinks that he will always remain sad like that and things will never change,
similarly, there are also times in a person’s life that something good happens
and he feels such joy and such happiness around him that life becomes a living
dream of heaven for him and he thinks that the extent of which he is happy now can’t
be matched and he’ll be always like that
They are both wrong
The feeling of
sadness that engulfs him makes him think like that so he thinks that he’ll
always be sad and not even once will he see the glimmer of happiness. This singular
feeling increases his pain and plunges him deep down in the valley of
hopelessness, similarly, when he something good happens he also go in a trance like
condition of happiness believing that it will always be like that
Everything is temporary
Nothing will last forever
not even the grief or the joy not even us for that matters. So one should not
consider each situation as permanent.
And remember! Always be
on the positive side. Whatever phase you are going through always remain at the
positive side, so that in your heart of hearts you know that you are right….”
In the living memory of Behzad Akhtar Jhattial....
